Daddy…

Daddy…

When I would look at men who had little girls there was something different about them.  They had this look about them that was different from those of us with only sons.  There was a tenderness in their eyes as they would watch their daughters play or walk or sleep.  There was a gentleness to how they handled their little girls.  And, there was the look of incredible love when that little girl would look back over her shoulder at her daddy. The day, the moment, that Libby was born, I understood.  There is something unique about little girls.  They are sweet and gentle.  You look at their face and know that soon you will hear that little voice whisper, “Daddy.”  Just knowing that your heart melts, just the thought of it.  I love my son with all that I am.  He is my buddy, my partner.  But there is something different about my Libby.  It’s hard to explain. There is just...
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“Pastor” Pat…

The scene is Haiti is horrific. The cries for help. The reality of people being buried alive. The dead littering the streets. The pain, chaos, and heartbreak enveloping a country that is already impoverished and broken. To this situation Pat Robertson on the 700 Club today spoke.  He stated among other things that it was a "blessing in disguise". Check out this video and then read my response:This response is heartless, cruel, and un-pastoral. My good friend Scott Crocker has posted a wonderful response and I would encourage you to read it. Near the end of this clip Mr. Robertson speaks of a pact made with the devil.  This is a rumor, an urban legend.  It may have happened, it might not have happened.We seek to find meaning out of tragedy, it is our natural response.  To make this tragedy into something other than it is simply smacks of pretentious self-righteousness.  The sad fact is that we...
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Crisis, Cowardice, Courage

In Allender's matrix the first challenge is that of crisis.  What do you do when the world comes crashing down around you? Thankfully I have not faced any huge crises in my time as a leader.  I have experienced personal ones within the context of my family but not so much in the context of ministry.  This is God's grace.  In these crises though I know that I experience the pull to cowardice.  I want so badly for there to be someone else who can take on the problem and have the hard conversations  and to make the decisions that nobody wants to make.  I feel it.  My hands sweat. My stomach gets upset.  My breathing quickens and my heart pounds.Thankfully I had a model of courage when I was a boy.  My mother was and is one of the most courageous people that I know. It's remarkable how courageous she is.  With three young children she worked full-time, went...
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One. Mono. Uno.

There is a saying, "One is the loneliest number." For many years I thought one was not all that lonely but a nice change of pace. I think that's because in my former life as a staff member with Campus Crusade for Christ there was such a crushing emphasis on team that you almost couldn't escape it.  I am not an introvert by nature so for one  to feel not lonely is saying something.  I have been a "pastor" for one year now.  I am coming to the conclusion that "pastor" equals "one". I want there to be a team around me.I desire for there to be a team around me.  But, the nature of the office is that there is the pastor (full-time, on duty, Christian-type) and then there are those around the pastor (people who are working out their faith in REAL life, in the REAL world, here and now).  It seems to me that those around the...
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You Took Me Seriously?

It turns out that people are actually taking this stuff I write seriously! It also turns out that when I post something it is no longer for me but for the world to read. Oh right, I wrote about that.Well, today I cam face to face with one of my weaknesses in our staff meeting. I realized today, in light of a great conversation around a big table, that my Achiever combined with Futuristic makes it hard for me to field questions regarding vision and direction (see my page on my personal strengths here). I take in so much information and I am constantly learning that my vision and direction are based on good strategic information.  The details of the conversation aren't important.  What is important is that for the first time in a long time I was actually aware of how my brokenness was being displayed.I realized today that I need divine intervention so that I might be more...
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