Turn. Turn. Turn. No, not that song.

In Matthew 18:3 Jesus says, "Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven." The word for turn is straphēte.  The idea here is "to experience an inward change, turn, change (BDAG)". Jesus is not calling them to "repent", in Matthew that idea is expressed by the word, metanoeō.  However, he is calling them to change.  They must "turn". The disciples must experience an inward change.  From the inside out they must become something different. Consider where we are in the life and ministry and Jesus.  We are near the end.  Jesus has set his face to Jerusalem, he is going to be sacrificed.  These disciples were a group of men who were about have their lives changed dramatically.  They are concerned who is going to be the greatest in the kingdom and Jesus calls them to change. They are still proud, arrogant, and haughty.  They refuse to ask for help.  The disciples believe that they know it all.  There is not an answer they don't know other than "who is the greatest".  They sounds like typical adolescents.  These teenagers had become so caught up in themselves that Jesus called them to change. I think that the issue becomes more clear when we look at verse 4, "Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven." There is a juxtaposition between the disciples question of "greatness" over and against the "humility" of the child.  To get there one has to have an inward change. Turn. Jesus simply calls them to turn. Turn to away from themselves to humility. This is the beauty of Jesus' call turn.  It is never empty.  It is always to something.  To act in humility, to be humble is a state of heart and soul. Most children I know are humble.  They ask for help.  They ask "why".  They know that they don't know.  They are interested but rarely self-interested. I think we must all face this call to "turn".  I know I do. How about you?  In what ways do you need to turn?

Kids are annoying, sniveling, little...or Theology of Youth Pt. 1

“At that time the disciples came to Jesus, saying, “Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” And calling to him a child, he put him in the midst of them and said, “Truly, I say to you, unless you turn and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.Whoever humbles himself like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. “Whoever receives one such child in my name receives me,but whoever causes one of these little ones who believe in me to sin, it would be better for him to have a great millstone fastened around his neck and to be drowned in the depth of the sea.” (Matthew 18:1–6 ESV) In our churches today children and youth are the silent ones.  They are dropped off in their wings of a church for two hours so Mom and Dad can "worship in peace".  The harried teachers are expected to form these young spiritually to make them into mature Christians.  Why? I think it is because we do not have a comprehensive understanding of youth and children from a scriptural stand point. Let's consider this statement by Jesus (the "founder and perfecter of our faith") from Matthew 18.  This is one of those passages that should cause to stop and think about things for a moment.  In the first century children were treated similarly to ours only without the cool cartoon characters and ping pong tables.  They were largely considered an inconvenience until they could be productive adults in the synagogue and society. Jesus says that one who has become like a child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven.  What does this mean? I think that we have a hard time understanding this because we push our kids to the fringes of our communities of worship. I love the fact that the Presbyterian tradition includes infant baptism because it drives home the reality that children are participatory members of the community of faith. While this is what we ought to be embracing, we do not. We are going to have a hard time knowing and understanding what it means to be a child in the kingdom when we do not worship with them. A child asks questions, incessantly.  A child laughs when things are funny.  A child laughs when things are inappropriate.  A child can not sit still.  A child finds mystery, wonder, and awe in the smallest of things (just watch one looking at the dust particles in a ray of sunlight sometime). A child believes their dad when he tells them something. A child loves the outsider. A child trusts. A child has fun.  A child dances to the beat.  A child loves to read.  A child loves. Unfortunately these things about children annoy us.  We find them disruptive.  "A child is to be seen not heard." It gets worse, they get pimples and hormones.  They get attitudes and they question everything.  They seek for identity and authenticity.  They no longer take simple answers to complex questions.  They grow and change and develop.  They look weird. They have awkward stages. Unfortunately these things about growing children annoy us.  We find them disruptive. Jesus is the great subversive.  He graciously embraces the fringes and broken.  Those without identity he shows them who they are.  So, the question is will you embrace the child? Our next post will focus on one word: "turn".

Theology of Youth

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Whitney said, "I believe the children our future..." I think that song begins to run through the minds and hearts of people when they begin to hear people talk about children or youth in the church.  They immediately think "future".  Oddly enough many of us ignore the second line, "Teach them well and let them lead the way."  What would happen if the children led the way? I think that we might play more.  I think that we might laugh more.  I think that we might collapse at the end of each day in joyful exhaustion more often.  I think that we might smile more. It is interesting is it not that we as the Christian church have largely removed leadership from the hands of the young.  Is it not also interesting that the great revivals in the history of the church have often been led by the young?  Do we wonder why we have not seen a great revival in this generation? Could it be that our understanding of the role of children and youth has become anemic? I am going to take a couple of posts to walk through the references in Matthew 18, 19 (and parallels) and Proverbs 22 to children with the goal of developing some type of "Theology of Youth".  What role do they play in the community of faith? What kind of leadership should we give to them? What does is it look like to embrace children and youth in the context of the church community?

Pressure Points

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There are few things in life that frustrate me more than watching other parents do things that hinder their child's spiritual growth. This may sound arrogant to you, it probably is.  I am not a perfect parent, not even close.  I get frustrated with my kids and I even yell at the little darlings every once in a while.  I think over the last eight years (that's how old our oldest is) I have asked for forgiveness more times than I can count (but that's another issue for another post). This post is about pressure. Overbearing pressure does exactly this, it hinders spiritual growth. I see parents all over the place putting undue and unrealistic pressure on children. This pressure broadens a relational rift between parents and children that naturally occurs at this age.  This is many times seen in the context of education.  Today more and more kids are pushed into AP classes.  These classes are taught at a very high level and are preparatory classes to test for college credits.  I took AP classes in High School but I had a Mom who understood that these classes were designed too teach me how to think and do research and that I would most likely not get an A. Her concern was that I simply worked hard and did my best. I think that the disconnect has entered in because it seems that a B is not good enough anymore.  That an A is required fare to prove that a kid is "working hard".  These grades have become the ultimate driving force in a parent's life. They punish their child for a B in a college level course that they themselves would have no chance to pass. Students are then punished for doing well enough.  Their punishment is often times limiting their involvement in social interactions. This limit is applied to the their faith community too.  The youth group is seen as a "privilege" that can be taken away. Please hear me, I am not saying that we should not push our children to excellence.  I am not saying that we should not encourage them to take on academic or athletic challenges. I am saying that we need to help them bring balance to their lives.  If we push them to be all consumed with their academics or their athletics then we are clearly communicating something.  We are communicating that these are the things around which life revolves.  The center of life is your ability to "achieve". I have this sad image in my head of many parents standing before the God, whom they love, asking why their child is not spending eternity with them.  Jesus' face turns grim and says, "My brothers and sisters you taught them that a grade was better than me.  You taught them that a grade was better than my people.  You taught them to set me and my people aside to study and get a B+ instead of a B.  You taught them that "the now" matters more than their eternity did. You taught them to love themselves over me.  You taught them to love being apart from me and now what you have taught them has come to fruition."

Ethan's Wish...

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At the turn of the New Year we all make resolutions. When Ethan, my eight year old son went to school after the turn of the new year he and his classmates did a project where they made a wish. The teacher got the idea from the Japanese Daruma Doll. Here's a quick second grade summary of the Daruma Doll:
"In Japan, one way to make a New Year's wish is to buy a daruma doll. This doll has no arms, legs, or eyes.  It does have a heavy bottom.  If the doll tips over, it rights itself. The doll is a reminder to never give up! When a wish is made, one eye is drawn on the doll.  When the wish comes true, the second eye is drawn.  The doll is kept until the end of the year."
So each student colored a doll and then responded to three questions:
  • My wish for the year 2010 is...
  • One way I can help make my wish come true is...
  • Another way to help my wish come true is...
Ethan is eight. He is in second grade.  When he was baptized, our pastor Bob Smart, prayed that Ethan would become an evangelist.  He asked God to use him to lead many people to Jesus.  We talk to both of our children (we also have a daughter Libby who is 6) about their "bapitisms" (as they say it) often.  We show them how God is making good on his covenant promises that he made to them and to us on the day of their baptisms. They are embracing these promises too. Back to the story. Ethan brought his daruma doll project home a week or so ago and here are his responses to the questions (his spellings, not mine!):
  • My wish for the year 2010 is... to teach more people about Jesus's ways!
  • One way I can help make my wish come true is...to meet more people that dont belive in god!
  • Another way to help my wish come true is...get my friend's togeter that do belive and tell people that don't belive!
Our kids go the neighborhood school.  They meet kids who are Muslim, Sikh, Christian, Atheist, and anything else you can imagine.  They both come home regularly and say, "We have to pray for so and so because they don't believe in Jesus." Ethan and Libby long for their friends to know Jesus. I have to tell you I am learning more about what it means to be on mission for God from my "Beast" and my "Princess" than I ever did in seminary or in any of my training as a missionary. In the world of an 8 year old Christ follower there are people who believe, there are people who do not. If you do not believe then you are missing out on so much love, fun, and friends! He can not understand why anyone would not want to know Jesus. How about you? Oh, in case you think I made this up, the picture on the left is Ethan's daruma doll.

Potential, Passion, Power

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Youth Specialties just dropped a post over on their blog about Passion 2010. The heart of the post was that college students in any number have incredible potential to change the world.  This is so true.  It's the whole reason movements like Campus Crusade for Christ, InterVarsity, and Navigators exist. I love that conferences like Passion are springing up and highlighting the potential of the emerging generation.

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The Younger Unchurched...

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There are so many thoughts running around in regards to the emerging generations.  These generations are building an ever greater legend for themselves as the "unreachable" generation. They drop out of the faith following high school.  They are all "evolutionists". They "hate the church". The legendary status of this generation is amazing. The only problem is that the stats do not bear it all out. Ed Stetzer over at LifeWay Research is doing some good work. The stat that is most profound is that yes these generations find the church hypocritical.  However, they are very, very open to the Bible. Nearly two thirds of the thousand surveyed said that they were open to having a friend study the Bible with them. The Bible. It's still relevant. Who knew? On the Radio Talking about the Younger Unchurched... - EdStetzer.com

Connector Churches

I read this today and thought that the nine traits listed in Ed's book are really insightful.  What do you think? http://blogs.lifeway.com/blog/edstetzer/
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Creating Deeper Community Churches that are effective at attracting and developing young adults place a high value on moving people into a healthy small group system. Young adults are trying to connect and will make a lasting connection wherever they can find belonging.

Making a Difference through Service Churches that are transforming young adults value leading people to serve through volunteerism. More than being pampered, young adults want to be part of something bigger than themselves and are looking to be part of an organization where they can make a difference through acts of service.

Experiencing Worship Churches that are engaging young adults are providing worship environments that reflect their culture while also revering and revealing God. More than looking for a good performance, young adults desire to connect with a vertical experience of worship.

Leveraging Technology Churches that are reaching young adults are willing to communicate in a language of technology familiar to young adults. Young adults sense that these churches are welcoming churches that value and understand them, engaging them where they are.

Building Cross-Generational Relationships Churches that are linking young adults with older, mature adults are challenging young adults to move on to maturity through friendship, wisdom, and support. Young adults are drawn to churches that believe in them enough to challenge them.

Moving Toward Authenticity Churches that are engaging young adults are reaching them not only by their excellence but by their honesty. Young adults are looking for and connecting to churches where they see leaders that are authentic, transparent, and on a learning journey.

Leading by Transparency Churches that are influencing young adults highly value an incarnational approach to ministry and leadership. This incarnational approach doesn't require revealing one's personal sin list so much as it does require that those in leadership must be willing to express a personal sense of humanity and vulnerability.

Leading by Team Increasingly churches reaching young adults seem to be taking a team approach to ministry. They see ministry not as a solo venture but as a team sport--and the broader participation it creates increases the impact of ministry.

Is your church reaching young adults? If so, are any of these traits proving to me more instrumental than the others in your context?

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